What do you want?

Seems a simple question… but when we ask ourselves what we want for dinner- the answer may not be as simple… and if you’re anything like me- it’s hard to even answer that as well! Lol However, there are times when we want something that we feel are necessary… Picture this… hungry and craving your

The Element of “Surprise!”

The element of surprise may not be favorable to some. This is because confusion, anxiety, fear and those who suffer from forms of PTSD respond from a trigger or past traumatic situation. And respond the same as if we were being surprised in what others feel this element of surprise is being presented in a

Does a Narcissist have Empathy?

They do… however their empathy is usually internalized and comes from a selfish perspective. Meaning they will always take a situation and make it about them by living in a victim role/stance…never taking responsibility nor accountability in any situation and exploit another’s emotional intelligence (EQ) using it to manipulate and control them. “a narcissist may

Does Everything have to be a Process!?!

Doesn’t it seem like everything is a process!?! Well, that’s because, for the most part, it is… and as much as it may be great news to some – it may be upsetting to others… And unfortunately if we don’t go through the process accordingly, we are doomed to repeat, relive, dwell and/or remain in

Being Brave doesn’t mean you’re Fearless ….

Being brave doesn’t mean you’re fearless ….  it means having courage, being smart and fully aware despite your fears. It’s ok to be afraid, but don’t let it stop you.  Brave defined is to endure or face unpleasant conditions or behavior without showing fear; ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage.  Being brave

“Bold”… how do you define it?

Bold defined is showing an ability to take risks; confident and courageous. Or having a strong or vivid appearance.   It’s safe to agree that there are many values to being bold through your freedom of creative expression. Whether we color our hair, tattoo our body or create a new look.  Whether we are free to

Just a day of Poetry, Dreams and a Legacy …

“ If we don’t have each other, we don’t have anything. Stay Gold Pony Boy, Stay Gold..” –S.E. Hinton, The Outsiders Dreams are what we believe will be fulfilling to our lives. But we also think that they are unattainable and unrealistic. How do we know this to be a certainty if we don’t try? Well,

3…2…1… we have “Meltdown”! When Awareness finally meets Clarity

As a life coach, I have heard from others experiences of what I call “The Meltdown”- And to let you know- I too, have had a personal experience with it, many years ago. And no, this doesn’t mean “you’re crazy”. Before, during and after experiencing any collapse/breakdown or breakthrough-so many have been gaslighted by unsupportive

The Beauty in Life…

It’s the beauty in life we overlook, underestimate and take for granted. We are constantly working and striving for more and when we get the breadcrumbs of our dedication, dues and paychecks in return- it becomes our priority in survival feeling as if we only are existing to bring food to our table and keep

Reality of Positivity and Happiness 24/7…? Not a chance…

We are emotional creatures… we can’t live under a rule or a thumb of “positivity/happiness all the time”… !! This is a form of manipulation… Please stop expecting yourself and others to be happy and live in positivity and happiness all day everyday…  “Narcissistic people like to set the emotional thermostat in the room. They

Laugh! Humor is Empowering…

“Let others bring order to chaos. I will bring chaos to order. If all writers would do that, then perhaps everyone will understand that there is no order in the world around us, that we must adapt ourselves to the requirements of chaos instead.”-Kurt Vonnegut Reading about Kurt, you would understand his satirically dark humor.

Find Them… They are looking for you too

Finding your people is a delicate subject for so many… we have to remember to have respect and compassion for all. However , there comes a point in our journey when we feel it’s a necessity to find ones we wish to share our space with. Those who do not struggle to understand our authenticity

Memories of you…

When we suffer a loss of a loved one we may feel we never have enough to remember them by…especially when we don’t have a keepsake or any tangible items, photos or clips to reminisce. So what we are left with is only the memories we have stored in our trinity.  And in those times

How do you identify?

Everyone is different, unique, authentic…we are not identical so how is it we have this want to identify within a limited space?  I have noticed that we worry to much about our identities or how we wish to be identified in society today.. why is that? Maybe it’s because being in certain communities or families

Progress is your opportunity…

“In the middle of a difficulty lies opportunity.” ~Albert Einstein How many difficulties do we face on a regular basis? Too many ! LolBut when going through some of the most difficult times we get caught up in the middle. But being in the middle doesn’t mean we have to live in nor remain in…

Cat got your tongue? More like the conscience manager…

“The greatest remedy for anger is delay.” –Thomas Paine Cat got your tongue? Perhaps the cat may be on to something…lol – it’s like the cat becomes our ‘conscience manager’… giving us a little time to manage our emotions/feelings, before we say something we probably shouldn’t. Because whenever we speak from anger we usually react

Time to find the open door…

“Waste no time to worry about a closed door. Search for a new door to open.” Lailah Gifty Akita When a doors is closed or closes it’s necessary to understand why. And if you’re the one closing the door, we have a way of questioning our  decisions.  But understanding that in any unfit circumstance, unhealthy situation

Do you remember me?

Do you have a particular memory as a child and unsure why it came up? When doing inner child shadow work, we bring up or remember specific moments, good, bad or indifferent.  Sometimes we may see or experience things that trigger us or brings up these memories from our childhood. And we can’t fully understand

It’s a Beautiful Wednesday Morning…have you been a good friend today?

Better yet, have you been a good friend to yourself today? The face in the mirror- do you know them?  Hope you are  up for a challenge… May sound silly to some- but it’s no joke. Doing mirror work is not easy especially when you are first starting out …  So to make it more comfortable,

The face in the mirror…

Do you know them? Do they look familiar? As we mature not only in body, but in mind, we go through numerous changing points in our journey, which can be overwhelming to anyone who starts to notice these changes, paying attention to their internal voice as well as being aware of what’s occurring around them.

Of course we care…

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama It’s human biology and psychology to care what others think. However, it’s important to recognize when this care becomes a debilitating concern…thats when we need to give some space and time to our relationship’s situation or

Not just Rhetorical…

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” –Mary Oliver A question not just rhetorical- but also for an unsolicited answer… We tend to graduate not only from the education systems, but also through maturing in life. What are your plans, today?  Gradually we become our own

Take or Make a Stand…

We all have been victims somewhere at some point in our journey. Everyone has a story… and how they tell it is where you may find the role chosen or perhaps a role that was given… but make no mistake on recognizing that every story has an ending… so let the role given or chosen

Independence Day…

Independence defined on this day, was seen as gaining freedom by deviating from British rule.  Our original 13 colonies -In order – Virginia, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, Connecticut, New Hampshire, New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Delaware, Maryland, North Carolina, South Carolina, and Georgia declared their independence- becoming America. Although it’s said July 2nd 1776 was when it

Compassion to the core…

Compassion is often confused with empathy. Although empathy is considered a “type” of compassion, empathy is regarded as a learned behavior- even though its inborn, we are most likely to be taught empathy as early as 2 yrs old.  Compassion is a core value, which means ‘to suffer together’. As this is a natural and

Musical Romance of Affection…

Would you write a song or a poem about your lover?Sometimes we forget that affection is one of the most important parts of the foundation in a healthy love relationship… and to be affectionate we must be open to endearing and romantic touch… but sometimes we have those moments when we aren’t in an touchy-feely

Just a Day of Poetry, Love and Devotion…

Enjoying a beautiful wedding day for two who have found love again. Two in which love found them for the second time.A day of love in which celebrates their devotion upon their life’s journey together- is such an incredible blessing to witness. So today is a day of poetry to inspire love, a new love,

Love talks-Maturity walks…

Walking away with a mutual understand is a maturity found in both which creates a better place of closure and peace in one’s mind and soul. The heart still hurts but is knowingly attuned to the reality that sometimes love between two – just isn’t enough…  Those are the times that love steps in to

Buckle up, Resentment is driving…

People change and grow. And unfortunately, sometimes in our committed relationships we grow apart. This is natural for those who may have once seemed to work together with constant compromises. Meaning it’s most likely a matter of incompatibility, that will eventually catch up…  This catch up occurs somewhere down the line and your roles change-in

Happy Father’s Day❤️

Happy Father’s Day❤️To all who are/were present, absent, stepped in or passed on 🙏This day is a day of appreciation and gratitude for a legacy of yours that created or creates life and families to live on… no matter what role was chosen, taken or given. Whether a Father, Father figure or Dad… perhaps all…

Moments of Clarity…

For me it usually happens in the morning. When I literally open my eyes, and then clarity suddenly starts engaging my worries, feelings, questions… then it all seems clear. It’s like everything just clicks and you feel connected, grounded and ready to mend and proceed moving forward. When was the last time you experienced a

🍋 More…. Lemonade?

It seems like there are times when life harshly insists on throwing you an abundance of lemons. This is when we realize we have had our fill and start working through our stock pile- making lemons into lemonade…Trying our best effort to take and get through those lemons by make something more delightful for our

We were little once..

…and that child in you is always very present. Sometimes I feel my inner little girl shows up more than I do somedays… lol It’s important to recognize our inner child, because now as an adult we have the responsibility to be the parent they always wished for, be the friend they never had and

Expected to standby…

As some of us are required to launched back into a more regular work week. We are going back into an office or a location… inflation, gas, traffic has been costly for all. And for those who have been able and gifted with working from a space at home, with some having children -this is

Just a day of poetry… Forbidden Love They Weather…

Seasons change and living in NJ we experience the beauty and differences of each. Winter, Spring, Summer and Autumn, a love affair of mine to write poetry about our four seasons.  This poem represents a forbidden love between Summer and Winter – Think Romeo and Juliet, a forbidden love, forbidden touch- a love affair that

You are your own boss… time to manage.

According to some a flashback is a vivid experience in which you relive some aspects of a traumatic event or feel as if it is happening right now. This can sometimes be like watching a video of what happened, but flashbacks do not necessarily involve seeing images, or reliving events from start to finish. However the more

Can we only get so far in our journey… alone?

Some may truly feel that they have and will… some may feel that they cant grow more being alone.  I can say you do grow more as an individual through any connection/relationship through any events or avenues in outreach. But It’s not about the “right way” of believing … it’s about the best in which

Shadow work

Shadow work has many avenues to open your unconscious mind and bring up things you have suppressed/ repressed within. It frees some of the deepest thoughts about parts of ourselves we have ignored or fragmented. Along with bringing up things from our past which we were not at a developmental level to fully understand or

“Hello, this is your calling.. glad we can finally become acquainted…”

Wouldn’t this be a beautiful call to receive ? Or even if left on your voicemail, only to listen to it on another day? Finding your calling or purpose is so fulfilling. But what if you didn’t receive that call… perhaps not yet. Don’t fret, I assure you that any purpose in life – will

Honoring Memorial Day…

Today is a day about our loved ones who had served in our military and had fallen unto war… these brave men and women took an oath to serve and protect our country, and their families endured through their duty… knowing that their loved ones may never return home…To the families of the fallen, our